Monday, June 27, 2016

Pop Life 101: Childhood Sexual Abuse - A Believer's Issue

Sexual abuse can be a doorway to lifelong issues for many that are victimized in their childhood. The identity of a person and how they view themselves can be altered by sexual offenses that occur during their developmental years. When we do not properly nurture our children with our presence, the risks for becoming sexually abused, triples! This is why it's so important that we obey God's creation role order and not succumb to our society's mindset concerning stay at home moms, homeschooling, and proactive nurturing. When these roles are mentioned, people frown and look down on you, some even consider them cultic and archaic world views. This perspective comes from years of indoctrination and programming from public schools, television, movies, etc. Talk shows, reality TV, and the military have fought for years to reshape our family values into New-Age philosophy where what we desire to have, is more important than what we do for our children. All of this has led to an sexually perverse epidemic of vast proportions, that threatens an entire lineage of innocent children.

Kids are now being sexually charged at younger ages due to excessive exposure to explicit content, as well as alarming occurrences of sexual abuse among unsupervised youth. Because the home has been left unguarded, the children of this generation are suffering. This is not meant to attack single parents that are doing their best to raise their children, my heart goes out to you. However, there are many homes where there is a mother that could stay home as a guardian, but they chose to find their contentment outside of the home. This is a recipe for disaster in the family. Children are violated and their futures are put at risk, all because no one is home to nurture and protect them. Nevertheless, you cannot blame the mother because this is the responsibility of the father and his leadership of his home!

A man should always desire to take full responsibility for his family and make sure his children (goods) are at peace! The man is the provider, protector and priest of his own family and he must create an atmosphere where his children can be nurtured and guided full-time by their mother. It is time for fathers to stand up and protect what is important. We cannot sit back and allow the world to strip our homes of our God-ordained responsibilities! The devil is wreaking havoc on the homes of so-called believers and destroying their children's perception of Christianity because they are being violated and corrupted under the care of strangers and not being nurtured by their own mothers. The maternal bonding chemical that is released during a mother's nurturing (oxytocin) in the infant stage is what strengthens the parent's ability to lead and guide the child once they reach their teenage years.  Without this bond, adolescents and young adults may rebel and parents must sit powerlessly as they watch the fruit of their relationship disregard them and go astray. Proverbs 30:11 There is a generation that curseth their father, and doth not bless their mother

Our prayer should always be for God to provide a way for us to structure our homes according to His plan. As believers, we should never be comfortable with our children living in a halfway house filled with nice things. Nice cars, nice homes, etc. mean nothing if there is no one there to watch the children. If the best way to protect a child from a lifelong struggle with sin, sexual identity, and low self-esteem is to have a mother stay at home, then why aren't we praying for this? Why aren't men making this happen in their homes and why isn't this being taught in our churches? If this is the way God intended for the home to be structured then why is this NOT on our prayer lists and church conference topics? Why are we calling ourselves believers, but we do not have the faith to believe God for the protection of our children? When did money become the deciding factor on whether or not our children will be molested? We need a reassessment, people! We need to get refocused. There is nothing more important than the future of our children. The very neglect we may have received in our childhood that led us to go astray, is now knocking at the door of OUR homes. Please people, remember your own pain and do not invite it in to wreak destruction on your own children! 

Stand guard and keep the peace of your home intact. 
In Jesus Name,

G. Craige Lewis

Mark 3:27 No man can enter into a strong man’s house, and spoil his goods, except he will first bind the strong man; and then he will spoil his house.

Luke 11:21 When a strong man armed keepeth his palace, his goods are in peace:

Prov. 22:6  Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. 

Prov. 17:6 Children’s children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers. 

Prov. 20:7 The just MAN WALKETH IN HIS INTEGRITY: HIS CHILDREN ARE blessed after him. 

FACT: There are child and family characteristics that significantly heighten or lower risk of sexual abuse. The following risk factors are based on reported and identified cases of abuse.(Children's Abuse Center, 2010)
  • Family structure is the most important risk factor in child sexual abuse. Children who live with two married biological parents are at low risk for abuse. Children with a stay at home biological parent are at the lowest risk for sexual abuse. The risk increases when children live with step-parents or a single parent. Children living without either parent (foster children) are 10 times more likely to be sexually abused than children that live with both biological parents. 
  • Children who live with a single parent that has a live-in partner are at the highest risk: they are 20 times more likely to be victims of child sexual abuse than children living with both biological parents (Sedlack, et. al., 2010).
  • Gender is also a major factor in sexual abuse. Females are 5 times more likely to be abused than males (Sedlack, et. al., 2010). The age of the male being abused also plays a part. 8% of victims age 12-17 are male. 26% of victims under the age of 12 are male (Snyder, 2000).
  • Age is a significant factor in sexual abuse. While there is risk for children of all ages, children are most vulnerable to abuse between the ages of 7 and 13 (Finkelhor, 1994). The median age for reported abuse is 9 years old (Putnam, 2003). However, more than 20% of children are sexually abused before the age of 8 (Snyder, 2000).
  • Race and ethnicity are an important factor in identified sexual abuse. African American children have almost twice the risk of sexual abuse than white children. Children of Hispanic ethnicity have a slightly greater risk than non-Hispanic white children (Sedlack, et. al., 2010).
  • The risk for sexual abuse is tripled for children whose parent(s) are not in the labor force (Sedlack, et. al., 2010).
  • Children in low socioeconomic status households are 3 times as likely to be identified as a victim of child abuse (Sedlack, et. al., 2010).
  • Most studies have reported that children with disabilities are at greater risk for sexual abuse. The latest research identified incidents of child sexual abuse involving children with disabilities at only half the rate of their non-disabled peers.
  • Children who live in rural areas are almost 2 times more likely to be identified as victims of child sexual abuse (Sedlack, et. al., 2010).
  • Children who witness or are the victim of other crimes are significantly more likely to be sexually abused (Finkelhor, 2010).

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Anonymous said...

And then you have those like me molested by a mother or father inside the home. 36 years old and still struggling with years of shame and abuse. Such a sad world we live in.

DREA said...

I feel your pain
It is difficult and cannot be explained away. God bless you

Shafarr Savoy said...

You can be healed from this. The remedy is brokenness, love and then forgiveness. You have to allow God to heal you of the rejection, shame, bitterness, unforgiveness,neglection and molestation. Once you understand that God has to bring you to a point of brokenness where you allow God to show you how to love your abusers then you will be able to forgive them. This is what has to happen and take place. It is no walk in the park, it is a painful and necessary process if you want to be set free. Schizophrenia a D bi-polar disorder are created from molestation. The person does not trust anyone and a chemical Inba lance happens on the head. This is where they take medication to deal with the symptoms rather than deal with the root of the problem. Once you do this and allow God to bring you through this process you will breakthrough all of the shame, rejection,hurt, abuse and neglection you received. God will begin to show you why it happened. Who knows what your parents been through that caused them to be the people they are today. Understanding and wisdom are important and it makes it easier to forgive. Again it is no walk in the park, however you have to do this. With Jesus Christ all is possible and Philippians 4:13 I can do a things through Christ who strengthens me. God wants you free from this, so he will strengthen you and make you whole. You will be able to forgive and love and that is freeing. If not you will stay bound another 36 years or however long it will take you to allow God to heal you. I will pray for you and the parents.

Anonymous said...

That is true. God will deliver and heal, if you let Him. If you find rest in Him,the rest from your burden (struggle, shame), He will heal, deliver and set you free. I am thousands miles and miles away in Uganda, but the message of Ex Ministries has totally changed my life and my family's life. The bible says that the 'truth will be scarce in the last days', the mere fact that I have to listen to a preacher thousands of miles a way on atcp audio to get a concrete message to me it is like being back in the days of John the Baptist, it is like listening to a voice in the wilderness. I pray to find a church where I can fellowship with other like minded believers in my country, I have tried to visit a few, but either the order is messed up or the message is so weak (its like having eaten meat and then someone takes you back to breast milk every sunday). Ex Ministries, may God bless you. May He speak through the Pastor as always forever and not him to speak of his own. Thank you a lot. Thank you for all your messages. Thank you. Thank you for not changing the gospel. May Glory and Honor be to God.

Anonymous said...

As a victim of child abuse, this message is real and hits home. It's a shame that more ministries will not preach and teach on this topic to help provide healing and restoration to broken lives. It took many years of living a lesbian lifestyle, drinking, and drugging to final come to a knowledge of the truth in Jesus Christ. He is the only answer for homosexuality, drug abuse, child abuse, etc. I thank you EX Ministries for teaching and preaching the truth of the Word of God, which is equipping the Body of Christ in these ens times. God bless you!

Darla Long said...

Wow! These comments were touching! I pray for all those who were affected by abuse. I totally agree with my fellow Believer in Uganda. I live right here in the states, but still can't find a home church to attend. I have gotten spoiled by Exministries in hearing the full truth of the gospel. I too, refuse to settle for milk after receiving meat. God help us in these last and evil days.

Anonymous said...

I, myself was an abused child for 2 years by my father's long time friend and navy buddy. Threats of my parents not believing me, domestic violence and alienation and torment from my siblings and other children made me I very anger person. I became someone that I now am shameful of but I have forgiven that person, my parents especially my dad, my siblings and anyone who has ever hurt me. Because I now stand with the need of forgiveness due to what I went through it ended up hurting people (not in the way I was violated). God is good thank God for his mercy and grace I am a better person now but I still need healing and I believe God will deliver me.

Anonymous said...

My husband left 2 years ago when I was pregnant with our 3rd child. I want the marriage but he wants no talks of reconciliation. I'm currently a stay home mom, but I'm currently facing foreclosure, in financial hardship and may have to be forced back into the workforce. I want may children homeschooled again but doesn't seem possible right now, (16year old boy, 10 year old girl and toddler) I've been following exministries for years so when I hear a message like this its discouraging because I agree totally but don't have my husband in the home. I brought Pop life dvd and it was one of the hardest dvds to watch. Any comments would be greatly appreciated!

Anonymous said...

I know of many single mothers who have prayed that God would bring them income without leaving home so that they could homeschool. Pray that God would bring you a job that you could work from home. God has answered many of my single parent friends prayers and I know that he can answer yours if you just believe and seek him for the right direction. Start looking online for your telecommuting jobs around your skill set. I'll be praying for you.